A brief talk about the secrets of the bridal chamber --- unexpected events in the newlyweds

Many young people always regard the wedding night as intoxicating as fine wine. Little do we know that there may be failures and accidents on the wedding night.

(1) Failure of sexual intercourse

During the newlywed period, men are prone to premature ejaculation. It is difficult for them to control it ideally at the beginning of sexual life. The solution is to have "double intercourse", that is, have sexual intercourse for the second time that night, then it will be easier to control the time of ejaculation. If premature ejaculation is not corrected, the wife will gradually lose interest in sex and form a vicious circle, resulting in low libido or orgasm disorders. In the end, the man himself was not satisfied. Men are often overly excited and thrilled on their wedding night, and maybe a little nervous, after all, it is their first time. Therefore, ejaculation often occurs at the beginning of physical contact, and everything is over before anything else can happen.

I wanted to experience the "ultimate pleasure", but I ended up "failed" in a hurry, which was really disappointing. "Honeymoon impotence" is another male sexual problem that is prone to occur during the honeymoon period. This is caused by mental stress, sexual psychological repression (such as poor living conditions during a travel wedding), sudden interference (such as others breaking into the room) or excessive fatigue. However, as long as you have a certain amount of sexual knowledge, a sound sexual psychology, and stay calm when encountering things, this transient erectile failure will recover on its own after a period of adjustment and rest.

If not handled properly, it may affect the harmony of sexual life at the very least, or even cause a breakdown in a relationship at the worst. Of course, it is not advisable for a man to be depressed or for a woman to file for divorce just because of one or two failed erections. Some men are too tired or drink too much before marriage, and they are unable to get an erection at the critical moment. The more anxious they are, the more helpless they become, and they feel very frustrated and guilty. Some women, although they are deeply in love with the groom and get along well with him during the relationship, suddenly become nervous and fearful when it comes to having sex, and even try to escape and dodge, which makes the man very disappointed.

If you fail, don't be impatient. Take a break and try again. You can also wait a day or two until both parties are emotionally stable before trying again. Sometimes when the man fails to have an erection, the bride will leave the next day after saying a few words like "you're useless" or "you loser", and even file for divorce right away. This shows a complete lack of scientific knowledge and cultivation. True primary impotence is very rare, but failure to achieve an erection during first sexual intercourse is quite common. At this time, the man will generally lose self-confidence or feel anxious. If the woman makes things worse by making groundless insults to him, it will be easy for the man to fall into psychological distress and become devastated. If the woman can gently say some understanding, encouraging and comforting words, the man will soon regain his courage and regain his masculinity. The husband should have the same attitude when the woman encounters problems. Of course, if both parties cannot have successful sexual life during the entire honeymoon, they should seek medical treatment as soon as possible to find out the root cause.

(2) Vulvar bleeding

When the hymen ruptures on the wedding night, most women will experience a small amount of vaginal bleeding, accompanied by pain. Also, 1/4 of women experience neither bleeding nor pain during their first sexual intercourse. Only a few women scream in pain due to lack of mental preparation or excessive roughness of their husbands, and even suffer severe tearing of the hymen and heavy bleeding. If the vagina or posterior fornix is ​​injured, the bleeding will be even more severe. At this time, you must not panic or be too shy and try to hold it in. You should use clean toilet paper or cloth to apply pressure to stop the bleeding. If it still works, you should go to the hospital immediately to suture and stop the bleeding.

(3) Syncope

Sometimes, because both parties hug too tightly and are too excited, the carotid sinus is compressed and fainting may occur. Just pinch the Ren Zhong point and the person will wake up quickly. If you have cardiovascular disease, you may also experience loss of consciousness, absent-mindedness, palpitations, shock, and other problems during sexual intercourse. Sometimes it manifests as pale complexion, sweating, rapid breathing, loss of consciousness, and low blood pressure. Lying flat and resting with your head tilted to one side can help you recover quickly, and the philtrum can also be stimulated if necessary.

(4) Semen allergy

Some women experience vulvar edema shortly after their first sexual intercourse, and sometimes even experience urticaria, shortness of breath, and other symptoms. And these symptoms occur after every sexual intercourse, which means you are allergic to semen. For those who are allergic to semen, in addition to taking symptomatic anti-allergic drugs, condoms should be used during sexual intercourse. Some people are allergic to the latex in condoms and experience similar symptoms. This requires the use of other contraceptive methods.

There are many unexpected situations that may occur during first sexual intercourse, but most of them are not dangerous. Don't panic. If you encounter a situation that you can't handle, seeking medical attention will be the safest and most effective way.