Gender topic: Dealing with your relationship with your husband

Many working women envy housewives, thinking that they do not need to face work pressure. In fact, this is not the case. Housewives need to deal with some pressure, especially interpersonal pressure in the family. In the family, if a woman does not handle the relationship between herself and her husband well, various pressures will follow. Therefore, the first priority for housewives to relieve interpersonal stress is to handle their relationship with their husbands well. So, how should female friends handle the relationship with their husbands?

Be a mature wife

After a woman gets married, she can no longer act like a little girl. Especially when getting along with your husband, although you don’t have to treat each other with respect, you should at least be aware of your responsibilities as a wife and be a mature wife.

Respect your husband:

Respect is the prerequisite for love. Don’t look down on your husband. The harmony of a family is the result of mutual respect and tolerance.

Be proactive:

A happy marriage requires change, motivation, and growth. Therefore, as a wife, you must be proactive in achieving the goal of family happiness, whether mentally, emotionally, spiritually or ideologically.

Cooperation Psychology:

There should be a sense of partnership. Married life is like doing business together, with shared property, equal power and equal responsibilities. If you always hold all the power, your husband will have no happiness in the long run.

Don’t expect perfection from your husband:

No one, male or female, is perfect. If you expect your husband to be perfect, you will create a defect in your expectations, and your marriage will definitely not be happy.

The husband supports the whole family through hard work. Therefore, after the husband comes home, the woman should be considerate to the husband in the following aspects: carefully and deeply observe and understand the husband's temperament, personality, interests, hobbies, etc. This is the prerequisite for full consideration.

The content of consideration is very broad, ranging from daily food, clothing, housing and transportation to nursing during illness, it is everywhere. In order to do all this, the wife needs to master some nutritional knowledge, cooking skills, gender knowledge, medical health knowledge, etc., and keep abreast of her husband's physical and psychological needs. It is very easy to grasp the time to be considerate, mainly including when he is tired, hungry, unwell or sick; when he is under strong mental stimulation, such as career setbacks, the death of relatives, tension between colleagues or conflicts with others; when he is about to participate in important work or travel far away; when he has a birthday or needs to be celebrated for his success...

There are many ways to be considerate, not just cooking his favorite dishes or buying his favorite things. In fact, psychological consideration is more important than material consideration. A heartwarming word and an affectionate kiss can often warm the husband's heart and make him feel extremely satisfied.

When couples get along with each other, they sometimes need to praise and appreciate each other, which helps to promote their relationship. When talking to her husband, a wife might try to praise him more. When your husband achieves something at work, even if it's just a small achievement, he needs your affirmation, support or encouragement. When your husband makes contributions to society and others, you should never forget to praise him.

A husband should be praised when he endures hardships first and enjoys later for his family and loved ones, or when he cares about, misses and loves his wife.

The husband’s inner excellent qualities should also be affirmed and praised. Touching words are the most common and important way of giving compliments. An approving look, a knowing smile, etc. can all convey your inner affection and express your praise or encouragement to your husband. A cup of fragrant tea, a glass of fine wine, a kiss or some of his favorite dishes can also be used as a reward for your husband.

It should be emphasized that the compliments between husband and wife should be mutual and equal. If only one party compliments the other party but does not receive a response or return from the other party, such compliments will not last.

Some women mistakenly believe that being civilized is a matter of social interaction, and that there is no need for husband and wife to use polite language when they love each other, otherwise it would seem awkward. In fact, the deep affection between husband and wife needs civilized words and deeds to enhance and deepen it.

Being polite when speaking to your husband will not only make you feel noble, but he will also feel respected. For example, when he comes home from get off work, you can say, "Dear, you're back, take a rest!" This simple sentence can make the husband who has worked hard outside all day feel the warmth of home and the tenderness of his wife. Polite language is not only a fusion of love, but also an agent for resolving conflicts between couples. It may feel awkward when you first use it, but it will become natural after a long time.

Civilized actions are more important than civilized words. You can try to do the following: get up earlier than your husband to prepare toiletries for him; go home earlier than your husband to prepare meals and bath water for him; be tolerant of everything when he is in a bad mood... Many actions are actually just a little effort, but they can make your husband psychologically satisfied, and the relationship between husband and wife will become increasingly deep.

To deepen the relationship between husband and wife, it is necessary to achieve it through emotional resonance, rational response, verbal speculation and coordination of actions. You should communicate with him honestly and often, and this can be achieved through daily conversations. After all, your understanding of your husband before marriage is limited, especially your understanding of his personality is not very deep. Therefore, after marriage, your conversations should not be limited to food, clothing, housing, transportation and daily living, but more of a deeper exchange of thoughts, souls and hearts.

You should be consciously aware of your husband's upbringing and have frequent conversations about each other's likes, dislikes, interests, expertise, hopes, and ideals. The relationship between husband and wife is a combination of friendship, love and family affection. The communication between you and your husband should continue to deepen and never end until it reaches perfection.