Eight taboos in married life

Don’t ignore the importance of

They would not give in and would make a big fuss over trivial matters. As a result, they quarrel about this and that, and every quarrel hurts their feelings. They lose the big picture for the small details, and the basis for the existence of the husband and wife relationship is gradually disappearing. Husband and wife should be tolerant of small things, negotiate more on big things, and try to avoid conflicts.

Second, avoid transforming the other party

I sculpt the other person into my own mold and want everything to be done according to my ideas. If it doesn't suit my wishes, I will not give in and will argue endlessly. Facts have proved that the personalities and living habits of old couples have been fixed and are difficult to change. Husband and wife should allow each other to maintain their own characteristics and personalities, learn from each other's strengths with an open mind, and achieve coordination and consistency by learning from each other's strengths and making up for each other's weaknesses.

Three taboos on clearing up history

Every time they have an argument, they recount the other party’s past “mistakes” to prove that they are right and the other party is wrong. This is not only not conducive to solving the current problem, but also leaves the other party with the impression that "you no longer trust me and don't like me." There are a hundred disadvantages and no advantages.

Fourth, don't leave any room for others' opinions.

"I've seen through you a long time ago. If you can change, I will no longer be named ***." This is not only not conducive to the other party correcting their mistakes, but also not conducive to easing conflicts, and will also put oneself in a passive position.

Five taboos: implicate family members

Some couples involve each other's parents, brothers, and sisters when they quarrel. This can easily hurt family ties and complicate the conflict.

6. Don’t punish your partner with sex

Some couples stop cooperating in sex life or even refuse to have sex after a quarrel. This not only hurts each other's self-esteem, but also damages the foundation of the couple's relationship.

Seventh, don’t use force to hit someone

Most quarrels between couples are over trivial family matters. To solve the problem, one should "use words rather than violence", appeal to the husband's emotions, explain the reasons to him, distinguish right from wrong, and find out the causes. Even when it comes to major issues, the use of force is unlikely to be effective. Hitting someone not only hurts the body and feelings, but also increases the difficulty of solving the problem.

Eight taboos: divorce lightly

Talking about divorce whenever a conflict arises will not only make people feel that you are threatening them with divorce, but will also leave the other person with the impression that you are heartless. If this continues, the marriage will eventually break down.