Should women use their bodies to "refine love"?

Advocating a natural and spontaneous sex is a new realm that both men and women should enter together. It is not a simple list of sexual techniques or a gratuitous performance of sexual passion. It is a return to the original state, a way of listening quietly to the call of one's own heart.

1. Be friends or have sex

I have heard my friends say more than once, "Oh, she and I know each other too well, we're like buddies, it's hard to do it!" or "Maybe we can't be good friends if we have sex."

Is this really the case? - Let's analyze it simply: true friends are generous and tolerant, care about and understand each other, and exchange ideas sincerely and warmly. If you can't be friends because of sex, then it can be said that when you were friends, you were not truly pure friends; if you lost him as a friend because of sex. Well, let me tell you, there is nothing to regret, just let him be! That means when he came to make friends with you, he never failed to imagine your lower body in his mind.

Therefore, it is the misunderstanding of sex, not sex, that constitutes an obstacle to being friends. Sex is an expression of intimacy and a natural desire between mature people of the opposite sex who appreciate each other. If I have a friend of the opposite sex who I can talk to very well and he has that kind of sexual attraction to me, I will certainly naturally want his hug and kiss, and it would be best if I could be in perfect harmony with him, instead of pretending to be reserved for the sake of being so-called "long-term friends".

Don't fool yourself. When you think about the question of "sex or friends?", you have already lost the qualifications to be friends in the narrow sense that you define.

2. When to have sex with him

Some girls are always full of worries, always worrying that maybe he won't like me anymore once they go to bed. Why do they always think like this? My analysis is that, first, the long-standing patriarchal society has created a potential dependent mentality in women, so that they regard whether they have "served" the man well as their own responsibility, without thinking that while he is choosing to be picky about you, you are also choosing to be picky about him. Second, when women regard men's affirmation of them as the only source of self-confidence, their vision and mind become narrower, creating a vicious cycle, making men look down on them even more. Third, they attach too much importance to sex and believe that sexual giving is the bottom line, the wholehearted dedication of body and mind. Therefore, after giving, one's psychological advantage is broken, and one forms the idea that the man should be responsible for himself, which causes the man to panic.

Be more mature. First, don't expect yourself to be a princess that everyone loves. Allow the other person to get tired of you, and give the other person some free space, so that your own soul can also be set free. Second, have sex with him when you want him the most, so as to maximize your sexual satisfaction. Otherwise, it would be a waste to miss the passion when you want it the most. Third, if you feel good, tell him about it. Maybe he has the same concerns as you.

3. Sexual skills and sexual passion

From passive reception to active control, the exploration of sexual techniques and the improvement of sexual ability seem to have become an important training for women who want to please men. No matter whether the other party likes you or not, or whether you like the other party or not, pull them to bed and show your sexual ability to get affirmation first. I am not afraid that you will not accept it, but I am afraid that you will not do it! After all kinds of oral sex training and vaginal feeling training are in place, some women with higher understanding have begun to have new pursuits, that is, to cultivate sexual passion that can be summoned and waved away, and to guess and grasp various clinical manifestations. Haha, let those women who are still indulging in the exploration of how to make men's sticks feel the maximum limit of happiness continue to study various angles and strengths. They have entered a new stage, making every man who makes love with her feel that she loves him the most!

However, I advocate a natural and spontaneous sex, which is a new realm that both men and women should enter together. It is not a simple list of sexual techniques or a gratuitous performance of sexual passion. It is a return to the original state, a way of listening quietly to the call of one's own heart. Perhaps, that kind of lovemaking is just the simplest form, but it leaves you with endless thoughts after every intercourse.

Sex is most beautiful when it is natural. Don’t let all kinds of distracting thoughts marginalize and artificialize sex.

4. About rejection

Some girls are not good at saying no, and sometimes they are not sure whether they like the other person or not. When they ask themselves, the answer is: I don’t dislike him/her.

In this case, it is better to refuse politely, frankly and clearly. Don't worry about the other person's ability to bear it. Doing so will always cause much less harm to the other person than going to bed because you are moved by the other person's relentless pursuit of you, and then regretting and abandoning him/her. Even if you have a little bit of affection for him, you should still express your thoughts clearly and tell him: I have a certain affection for you now, but this affection is not in that sense at all. Don't drag things out and keep the other party guessing. Doing this is a kind of respect for the other person and even more so for yourself. If the other person is mature, he will be grateful to you.