What to do if your spouse is addicted to pornography

Have you accidentally discovered your spouse's secret: he is addicted to pornography? Maybe he views pornographic pictures and movies online, or he buys pornographic magazines online. Usually, he will do this behind your back, so it is hard for you to detect it. What is even harder is, once you find out, how should you deal with it?

First of all, we must understand that addiction to pornography is like addiction to alcohol and drugs. Once you become addicted, it is extremely difficult to quit. Porn addiction is a disease, and it is easier to break with help. So how can you help your spouse break his or her porn addiction?

Provide support - Porn addicts may not believe that they can get through the embarrassing, frustrating and difficult times that come with their addiction, so it is important that someone else thinks they can and gives them that confidence. With your support and care, it will be easier and faster for your spouse to break the addiction, and because of your support, his frustration will be reduced. So, be supportive as much as you can and try to understand your spouse's feelings. Of course, at that time, you may easily feel hurt, betrayed, and disgusted, so you need to be extra strong and rational at this time, give him your support, let your spouse come back to you, and let your marriage start again.

Install filtering software - This is another way to help your spouse break his or her porn addiction. By installing filtering software, you can effectively prevent your spouse from being tempted to seek out pornographic content online. And it turns out that this is the method that many men who have given up their addiction prefer. Once you have installed and set up the filtering software, you should keep the password in your own hands. This method can effectively prevent your spouse from indulging in it again.

Let your spouse turn his or her eyes to you - you must ensure that the sexual relationship between you and your spouse is healthy and fulfilling. This way, your spouse won't feel the need to focus on pornography for satisfaction. Find a suitable time to fully experience the sex life between you and your partner. When your spouse realizes that he or she can actually have fulfilling sexual experiences, he or she will no longer need to search the Internet for pornographic stimulation.

Don't make him feel ashamed - your partner may already feel embarrassed and consider his porn addiction to be shameful. He certainly doesn't need others to make him feel more humiliated. If you make him feel this way, things may get out of control. He may again be tempted to seek out pornographic stimulation online to make himself feel better or to end the relationship with you. Therefore, give him strong support and never spurn him because of his pornography addiction.

Use your love and support to help him and yourself through the most difficult times. Only by withstanding such tests can your relationship become closer. I believe the above points should be helpful to you. Only in this way can you get your marriage back on track and find the man you love again.