6 ugly things men and women must ask

The first question for men and women: money

If you are in a stable relationship or are about to get married, you must understand his financial situation. Does he have a good credit record, does he have any large debts, what is the ratio of this debt to his income, how much impact does it have on his life and what is his attitude towards luxury goods. Although "talking about money hurts feelings", if you intend to take this relationship seriously, it is necessary to understand the other person's financial background as early as possible.

Second question about men and women: children

Compared with money issues, the problem of children is slightly less lethal, but for this reason many couples ignore its importance. Of course, there are many couples whose children are “accidental winners” that come to them unexpectedly. However, if you don't want to be caught off guard by this unexpected surprise, you can have a frank discussion about the approximate age of the child and what kind of preparations both of you will need to make. Although plans can never keep up with changes, as long as you plan ahead, even if an unexpected situation occurs, it is easy to get over the initial panic and calm down immediately and prepare countermeasures.

The third question about sex: love issues

Various surveys and studies have shown that Chinese women are passive and reserved in bed, and the opportunities and frequency for them to truly enjoy it are very few and far between. If you are a person who values ​​the quality of married life and want to improve the interest and enjoyment between husband and wife, then talk to him about this issue. For example, you may want him to caress you more during foreplay, tell you where your sensitive areas are, and hug you for a while after sex... Such suggestions are good for both parties. The more you devote yourself to the enjoyment of love, the closer your relationship will be.

Question 4 for both sexes: Family background

"Meeting the parents" is an important procedure to enter a deeper stage after a formal relationship. Only when the parents of both sides know each other and get their blessings can the love be considered the most perfect love. Similarly, it is essential to understand the other party's family. Marriage is not a matter between two people, but a matter between two families. Many trivial matters that seem insignificant before marriage become major matters that cannot be ignored in a family of two after marriage, and are even closely related to the harmony of the relationship. Therefore, don’t take the “background check” before marriage lightly.

Question 5: Communication style

Although both parties have some understanding of each other's temperament and character in love, it is not enough to just stay at the understanding level. Communication is not about quantity, but effectiveness. You have to understand what way to communicate with the other party effectively, rather than just talking to yourself. It is wrong to compromise and accommodate the other party or ask the other party to tolerate you. What you need to be clear about is how to prevent communication from becoming a matter of one person, but to make both parties participate in it, and he can listen to your conversation, be happy to discuss and interact, so as to finally get an answer that everyone is satisfied with. Finding your own way of communication is the most important thing.

Question 6: Rhythm in life habits

Although trivial daily habits are small things, they will snowball over time and become big things. You like staying at home, while he likes outdoor activities; you like to be casual and comfortable at home, while he likes to keep things tidy and organized; you like to save up your daily clothes and wash them all at once on the weekend, while he likes to change them every day... Many small things can easily become the fuse of a quarrel when accumulated. If you don't want to have a huge argument over these trivial matters, you'd better discuss a compromise and a feasible method, agree to it and never go back on your word, and the violators will be punished equally. Only when both parties abide by the rules and enjoy their rights can the relationship be stable and harmonious.