How can men and women quarrel better?

To have a good fight, there are certain things you need to do and certain things you need to avoid. Now let’s talk about what to pay attention to during an argument.

One of the things to do: Clarify the other person's ideas and express your own ideas clearly.

1. Don’t talk about things that are unlikely to change

For example: complaining that the other person is not tall enough, has a bad figure, or does not earn enough money, etc. If you are the one being talked about, I suggest you respond calmly by saying, “I know that’s how I am. But this is who I am and that’s just the way I am. Talking about it won’t help.”

So, shall we talk about some of the parts I can change? "If you are the one who is talking about this, then I suggest you think clearly. The other person may be like this. If you can accept it, then accept him as he is. If you can't accept it, then consider leaving him. Forcing the other person to make some impossible changes will only increase the frustration of both parties. If his problem requires mental health treatment (such as: impulsiveness, alcoholism, pessimism, avoiding people), then you should help him seek professional advice.

2. Don’t bring up the past; argue about future issues

During an argument, don't keep digging up old scores. This only serves to stir up emotions on both sides and does not help resolve the issue at all. I suggest you always say: "Okay, if we encounter a problem similar to today in the future, what should we do?