Women need this to be "awakened"

A German magazine published a letter written by a woman to Dr. Reiner, a German sexologist, in which she expressed her confusion. She said that when she met her boyfriend again after a long separation, he just pulled her hand and she was extremely excited and eager to be intimate. But her boyfriend is “unromantic”. The lady asked: "Don't women need to be aroused for a long time before they can get into the role? Is my situation normal?"

Confusion about foreplay and caressing time

Dr. Reiner says many women are confused about the timing of foreplay and caressing. We emphasize that women need prolonged caressing because women have erogenous zones all over their bodies and it takes women longer to become sexually aroused than men.

Women's slow arousal can be shaped

But women's slow sexual arousal is not innate, but shaped, and can be changed. At some point, a considerable number of women do not need more caressing than men. At this time, if the man is slow to get to the "topic", it will make them feel irritated and even completely destroy the mood for sex.

Let it happen naturally

Dr. Reiner emphasized that every aspect of sexual life requires the tacit understanding of the partners and should proceed naturally. Overemphasizing caressing will create a gap between the hearts of both parties. Some men's caressing behavior is not spontaneous, but to show their "gentleness" and to make the other person feel better, they suppress their desire.

Causes a sense of alienation between the two parties

They are often disappointed to find that the result of doing so is that they become more passive. Even if the other party's desire is aroused, they may lose interest in sex, which inevitably leads to a sense of alienation between the two parties. What's more, sometimes women also want a burst of passion.

Love is the natural outpouring of life force

So, Dr. Reiner concluded: "Sex is the natural outburst of life force. When it is like operating a machine tool, with every detail following a rule, people cannot really enjoy sex. Only by conforming to the naturalness of sex can couples have the best sex life.

Don't stick to those rules.

So, when you are intimate, don't stick to those rules and regulations. On the contrary, paying close attention to each other's feelings is the only shortcut to a happy sexual life.