Eight preparations you must make before going to bed

Sex is the sublimation of love between two people, but this does not mean that sexual relations can occur as long as there is passion. Laura Berman, a famous American sexologist, pointed out that wise sexual behavior requires considering some factors in advance so as not to feel bad after sex or even have health and emotional risks. If you want to have sex with someone you like, it is necessary to make the following eight preparations.

1. You are physically and mentally mature enough to be responsible in your sexual behavior.

Modern young people generally mature early, and the average age of first sexual intercourse is younger than that of the previous generation. According to relevant surveys in the United States, the current global average age of first sexual intercourse is 17.7 years old. Experts point out that the body must first be mature when having sex. Premature sexual activity can cause harm to the body and even affect future fertility. Secondly, one should be relatively mature mentally during sex and be able to correctly view and understand sexual relationships so as to avoid developing a negative attitude towards sex.

2. Confirm that the other party is unmarried or not dating anyone.

Your sincerity doesn't mean the other person is sincere too. If you accidentally have sex with a married person, you are likely to inadvertently get yourself into a complicated situation where you will be condemned and feel emotionally betrayed.

3. In addition to appearance, there are many other things about the other person that attract you.

"Liking each other's appearance" is important, but in addition to physical attraction, you should also have common hobbies and topics. Otherwise, even if sex occurs, the relationship will not last.

4. Take effective contraceptive and disease prevention measures .

This is a self-interested and altruistic thing. Wearing a condom is the simplest way to avoid pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases, and it can also make you more relaxed during sex.

5. Both parties are willing to do this, and the relationship is not based on sexual threats.

Sex should be consensual. Never use sex to threaten your partner, such as saying "If you don't have sex with me, you don't love me." Real sex should be the sublimation of the feelings of both parties and a shared enjoyment.

6. This is not the first time you have met.

Although "one-night stand" is mentioned more and more, it is not a good thing. The United States once conducted a survey of 1,743 people who had one-night stands and found that most people, regardless of gender, would blame themselves for it and have negative opinions of the person they had the relationship with. It is not a good thing for a man and a woman in love to go to bed the first time they meet.

7. Doing so is consistent with your own moral standards.

When it comes to sex, everyone has their own moral values. Some people think that sex should happen after marriage, while others think that sex is okay after dating for half a year. In any case, try to follow your own moral standards so that you will not feel regret and remorse after sex.

8. Materially relatively stable.

Money can't buy love, but it can affect a person's sexual behavior. For example, people may engage in more impulsive sexual behavior when they have money, and may be more willing to relieve anxiety through sex when they are poor. Therefore, it is best to be in a relatively stable financial situation when having sex.