Why do men look like two different people before and after sex?

I believe many women will have such complaints: why before making love, men are full of enthusiasm and want to melt you, but after making love, they become cold and completely lose the previous feeling. Many women even think that men go to bed with them just for sex, not because of love. So, what is the truth? Why are men like two different people before and after having sex? Let's go into the hearts of men and see what they are thinking.

1. Confident women are more attractive

Many women feel that their husbands do not really care about them and that conversations between husband and wife often focus on his interests rather than hers. However, it is an obvious fact that most women intend to "lower themselves" so that their husbands feel that they are the head of the family. What women often overlook is that men with pleasant personalities usually prefer women who share those same qualities. The vast majority of men believe that women with strong self-confidence are more appealing to them, so wives should not be too modest in front of their husbands.

2. Use sex to resolve repressed emotions

As men, many people are unwilling to show their weaknesses, such as fear, isolation, disappointment, etc., and often use sex as a way to vent these inner emotions. At this time, if the wife wants more tenderness, she will only be disappointed.

Because, although the husband gets physical release, his inner tension is not eliminated, and the wife will feel insulted and feel that she is a tool for her husband to vent his anger. In fact, when men feel fear, disappointment, or nervous, they all hope to have a loyal partner by their side, so sex is an effective way for them to regain confidence and feel comforted. Therefore, when a wife feels that her husband is nervous and uneasy, she should find ways to share his burden with him, so that he feels safe and can tell her what is in his heart. This will make the couple feel closer, and the resulting sex life will be more passionate and memorable.

3. Don’t want to be treated as a child by your significant other

The more a wife plays the role of her husband's mother, the more her husband treats her like his own mother rather than an affectionate lover. Why should a woman treat her husband like a mother treats her child? A woman said, "Whenever my husband doesn't pay attention to me, I use the 'motherly way' to make him delicious food and arrange his underwear. What I really want is more attention and tenderness from my husband, but what I get is the full words of gratitude from a sensible child. He praises me for being so thoughtful!"

As children, women learn to feed their children, to give selflessly, and to be attentive to the needs of others. When she marries a man, she will do this subconsciously. Initially men need this kind of care, but the more enthusiastically a woman plays the role of a mother, the more difficult it is for a man to repay her with affection.

Therefore, women should not treat their husbands as children, but as capable and trustworthy friends. This may cause a lot of trouble at first, but the husband will eventually understand his wife's good intentions and start treating her as the woman he carefully chose again.

4. I like to share the joy of sex with my wife

There are differences between men and women in sex. Women pay attention to tenderness, while men appreciate their own fun sex life more. Because of this difference, women often complain that their husbands only pay attention to sex and that they are just tools, while men complain that their wives are only interested in romance. To resolve this contradiction, you can try to reverse roles and let the man talk about his feelings of love, while the woman tries her best to experience physical pleasure. In this way, the wife can understand that her husband's sexual demands are actually the ultimate expression of his love.

5. You are two different people before and after sex

Many husbands fall asleep immediately after having sex. The wife thought her husband was deliberately distancing himself from her, but he said he needed to rest. Countless women have had this experience, but what they don't understand is that men do this to gain emotional control. A strong self-image is essential to most men, and the complete loss of defense can be psychologically threatening to them. One man said that sex was an experience in which he could express his emotions completely freely, but that afterward he had to pull himself out of it and "return to manhood."