Men need men like fish need water

"The water of Taohuatan is a thousand feet deep, yet it is not as deep as the love that Wang Lun gave me." After reading these two lines of poetry, you may wonder how two grown men like Li Bai and Wang Lun could be so close to each other. Is this a common problem among writers? Actually, the friendship between most men is much deeper than we think. Mr. Jin Yong has written many touching love stories between men and women, "what is love in this world, that makes people swear to be together through life and death", but the friendship between men in his works is even more touching. For example, the stories between the Wudang heroes in "The Heaven Sword and Dragon Saber" and Hu Yidao and Miao Renfeng in "The Snow Mountain Flying Fox" are all stories between men that make people linger in their minds. I believe that men and women who have read martial arts novels or watched Jin Yong's TV series will understand them.

Men never forget the bad friends they had when they were single.

In real life, men can never forget the group of friends they had when they were bachelors, and they get together every now and then. Women who are left alone in their empty rooms therefore start to complain and grumble. Naturally, men will feel upset and blame women for not understanding the friendship between men. My friend C recently encountered this problem. After their marriage, her husband was still like a single man, drinking and having fun with friends until late at night before coming home. C suspected that her husband no longer cared about her after they got married, so there was a lot of tension in their words. C's husband felt that C was being unreasonable and did not understand him at all. The family cold war began from then on.

Every woman wants to be the most important person in a man's mind.

In fact, almost every woman wants to be the most important person in a man's mind, but this may just be a beautiful wish. From a psychological point of view, when men are with other men, it has extraordinary significance for men: first, men are more socially competitive than women, and they need to gain recognition of their own gender from other men. Second, men release their aggression and maintain their masculine characteristics during recreational interactions with people of the same sex. Third, men can grow mentally through competing with other men.

The reason why men need men is because men's hearts can also be barren sometimes.

Even though a woman is the flower that grows in a man's heart and can bloom bigger and bigger, no matter how big it blooms, there is still an empty space in the man's heart that needs to be decorated with trees, weeds, and even rocks. This is why a man's friends, even if they are not elegant, have no talents, or have bad habits, do not prevent each other from becoming friends.

Men need friendship like fish need water

Many men are willing to spend their time and energy on their friends, including suffering some grievances. But a man who chooses his friends poorly is like a man who chooses trees poorly in the wilderness. Women should understand men's needs and give them some space to interact with the same sex, but they should also limit the level of their mischief so that their husbands will not be so generous to their friends as to say, "A wife is precious, but wealth is more precious. But for the sake of friendship, both can be thrown away."

Men regard friendship sacrifice as an honor

Men sacrifice their lives and blood for friendship, devote their time and energy, and regard sacrifice for friendship as an honor. This is the affection between men, and women should understand it, but they should also demand the same treatment and enjoy the same enthusiasm from men. Reject a man who "accidentally" shows courtesy to his lover in front of his friends and has to cover it up, as if he has done something shameful.

Don't forget to "go through the knife mountain and plunge into the oil pan" for your lover

Men like to call their friends over and go through fire and water for them, but they should also not forget to give their lovers massages and feet and show concern for their loved ones. Don’t “forget your friends when you see a beautiful woman”, but don’t “turn pale when you talk about women” either. Anyway, if you can't treat your friends and lovers equally, then don't be too biased.