The "ugly wife" mentality of men after marriage

If a man takes you out before marriage, he may have a certain desire to show off. Once married, you become the "ugly" wife in his mind. What is the psychological thinking of men? How do we understand the male psychology in detail? Today, let's take a closer look.

Men love "ugly wives" after marriage

Xiaoru is a beautiful girl. When she was single, she had many suitors. In the end, she chose the eloquent Dali, because he always spoke in a way that made Xiaoru feel sweet and made her feel particularly valued. But after marriage, Xiaoru found that her husband rarely praised her appearance and temperament, often ignored her when she dressed up glamorously, and complained about her frequent purchases of clothes and cosmetics. Xiao Ru was very confused. Didn't he love her anymore?

In fact, Xiaoru's worries are somewhat unfounded. As we all know, most men are lustful animals and like beautiful girls. But after getting married, they are reluctant to praise their wives for their beauty, and sometimes even complain: "Why do you dress so beautifully after getting married?"

Men's sense of security is at work

This mentality is very common among men and can be attributed to their "ugly wife mentality." Generally speaking, young and beautiful girls are more attractive to men, which can be said to be an evolutionary inheritance. In addition, only by chasing after a beautiful woman can one gain "face", and vanity also plays a big role. Therefore, they will spend a lot of time pursuing beautiful girls, praising their beauty, and even generously spending money to buy clothes to please them. At this time, the man stands from the perspective of an appreciator and feels that the woman is like an exquisite work of art, pleasing to the eye, and has incomparable attraction and charm.

However, once a man brings a beautiful girl home, his vanity is satisfied, a sense of security becomes dominant, and he only seeks a simple life. People say "a family has three treasures: an ugly wife, a thin field, and a worn-out cotton-padded jacket". If no one covets them, it means you have a sense of security. "A glass of wine can relieve worries, and an ugly woman can turn your hair white", these proverbs also illustrate the same truth.

Married men are more realistic

After marriage, a man's attitude towards his wife's enthusiasm for dressing up will undergo subtle changes. Just as the advantages before marriage have turned into disadvantages, what has changed is not the behavior but the psychology.

But men are often afraid to admit their concerns and vulnerabilities. When they feel insecure, they rarely communicate openly with their wives to gain reassurance. On the contrary, they will treat their wives with an attitude of neglect, dissatisfaction or even blame, hoping that she will no longer attract attention.

In addition, men after marriage generally turn from romantic to realistic and consider family expenses more, which also becomes a reason for them to prevent their wives from spending a lot of money on dressing up. Moreover, in the eyes of men, a wife who cannot calm down and take care of her husband and children after marriage does not meet the standards of a good wife and mother.

"Beautiful wife" can also have white hair

However, you should know that a woman who does not give a man any pressure will only make him tired. Moreover, necessary dressing up for women is also beneficial to their physical and mental health and helps cultivate their self-confidence. Therefore, women should have a certain degree of judgment and autonomy, and should not blindly confront or obey their husbands' opinions. Instead, they can take the time to have a good talk with him and understand his real thoughts. If you blindly obey your husband in order to avoid conflicts, it will not only damage your self-esteem, but also make the relationship between husband and wife superficial, lacking in sincere understanding and communication.

If husbands can bravely express their true thoughts and not hide their vulnerability, they will receive more sincere rewards and their beautiful wives will still be "safe".