Who is hidden in the "affair" between men and women?

Similar to the semi-cheating people in the above two cases, in addition to the stimulation and excitement brought by semi-cheating, there are also inner conflicts and anxieties, and they always can't help but find channels to vent. On a smaller scale, it may be a quiet confession between a close friend or a good friend or brother. Summarizing the consultations or investigations I have received from those who cheated on their partners, the reasons for cheating on their partners are as follows:

1. Realistic marriage, unsatisfied desires

The marriages of this type of semi-cheating people have no emotional foundation before marriage, nor do they develop an emotional foundation after marriage. They either met through blind dates, got married online, or got together to hang out (such as travel buddies). The most prominent example is the marriage of those born in the 1980s. They have an affair purely to find an extramarital affair to make up for the lack of love in their marriage.

2. A dull career and a love affair

Many white-collar workers or grassroots civil servants, when they feel that they have no hope of promotion at work, will relax themselves at work and just think about getting by. This will provide them with more convenience in contact with the opposite sex. As time goes by, they will naturally fall in love with a like-minded close friend of the opposite sex to kill their boring time.

3. If you dare to light a lamp, I will set it on fire

Many wives will find someone to talk to after their husbands cheat on them. In addition to their girlfriends, they will also tell their inner distress to colleagues of the opposite sex, or vent on the Internet, or simply try to deliberately create such a so-called "scandal" to attract their husbands' attention and judge whether their husbands really love them. Of course, they also want to cheat to get revenge on their husbands, but due to some traditional morals and marital constraints, they dare not actually cheat with close friends of the opposite sex, and semi-cheating satisfies their psychological needs.

4. Just for fun, making close friends

This type of semi-cheating person is more caused by his personality. He actually has no intention of cheating. He is just limited by the fact that his life after marriage is becoming increasingly poor and his spouse does not understand romance, which makes him unable to suppress his nature and desire instincts, and he longs to seek the care of a close friend of the opposite sex.

5. I can’t forget my old love.

It often happens between old classmates, old colleagues, and old acquaintances. They have always had feelings for each other, but after they each had a family, the dullness of marriage gave them common topics to talk about. Over time, their feelings for each other will be sublimated from friendship to "love", or between friendship and love. They feel that this is a natural thing and they can't help themselves. This kind of semi-infidelity is also hidden under friendship and is difficult to be discovered by spouses, which makes them become more and more secretive and makes them feel at ease.