What is the bottom line for women cheating?

After all, women's extramarital affairs are fundamentally different from men's. A man's upper and lower body can be viewed separately, and even if he doesn't like it, he will still be entangled with it for some reason. You have to have some "feeling" before you can meet a woman.

This means that having an affair is destined to be more tiring for women than for men, as there is a bottom line for their affairs. And to what extent does this bottom line fluctuate and shift? Is it spiritual or physical? Or something else?

One view of infidelity: Finding a subtle perfection between your husband and another man

First of all, let me make it clear that I am not a moral guardian, so for me, the bottom line of an affair is that both parties benefit and no one causes trouble for the other. To put it bluntly, I should not expect the other party to divorce, nor should I allow the other party to put pressure on me. No matter how much you like it.

I believe that a considerable number of women have affairs not because they can no longer make ends meet (they can get divorced if they can't make ends meet), but because they feel some kind of incompleteness, which may be the same as men. The difference is that men are not as strict about having affairs. A woman can't do that. She has to be "likable" by the other person before she can be with him.

My man is a good man, but he is not as attentive as before. There is no longer any heart-pounding passion. All I have are days. Every day is almost the same, which makes me lose the desire to talk to him. More often than not, you will feel that he is your own shadow, your brothers and sisters, and your living habits are changing. The time for sex becomes regular, and the intervals between sexes are getting longer and longer.

At this time, women also begin to feel uneasy. If a person of the opposite sex who is interested in them and can chat with them appears at this time, it is indeed an exciting thing for women.

Generally speaking, a woman having an affair feels like she is being affirmed psychologically. What is lost in the husband, is found in the lover.

It's a delicate balance. We are all mortals and we all have only one life. As long as the other party in the marriage doesn’t know about it, no one will be hurt and feel no burden, and they will be able to love the people around them well. For women who demand perfection, this can be said to be a relative perfection.

The second view of infidelity: Love is the biggest limit

I was born in the 1970s, so I don't have that much sense of morality or guilt. For me, love is the ultimate bottom line. After all, an affair is not something that can happen just by chance; it also requires fate. Otherwise, how can it move you and make you dive into it again? Moreover, women are born for love. Without love, life is meaningless.

Love is a woman's weak point. Once she falls in love, she becomes ignorant of everything. There are many plays about women killing their husbands for their adulterers that have been passed down to this day. Pan Jinlian is a living example. But can you say this is not a kind of love (just too extreme), otherwise what kind of power would make a weak little woman wipe her husband?

In a long marriage, who can guarantee that one will only love one person? A woman who is too deeply in love is not suitable for having an affair. If she is not careful, she will cross the limit and cause a bloody incident that will shake the world.

What I want to say is: Women, when you jump into the sea of ​​adultery, don’t forget to make yourself less hurt.

The third viewpoint of infidelity: A woman who has an affair should be guaranteed to have a clear path home

Once things get out of hand, it's hard to clean up the mess. I am more inclined to wait and see than to invest in extramarital affairs. Actually, I am serious too. This kind of relationship wouldn't be fun if you didn't take it seriously.

Of course, this view only applies to rational women. My husband and I both have our own lovers. It's just tacit understanding. Because ten years of marriage are really tiring and exhausting, but we can't get divorced, the price to pay is too high. Because my son is already a third-grade student in elementary school. We all love him.

In our city, there are some well-educated middle-aged couples. Some of them advocate "swapping wives and husbands", believing that this is safer, but they will not have affairs.