What is the difference between "pleasure" and "orgasm"?

Netizen: What is the difference between pleasure and orgasm?

Meng Jixian: Pleasure is of course a kind of physiological and psychological pleasure and comfortable feeling. Orgasm has a specific meaning. It is a specific stage in the sexual response process. During this particular stage, for men, the pleasure rises sharply and finally manifests as ejaculation. For women, the pleasure continues to rise and finally reaches a climax of sexual response. This climax has a special meaning. There are special changes in the body, physiology, and psychology, including special psychological changes and special physiological changes, which are manifested as the rapid breathing, high blood pressure, extreme pleasure, body spasms, vaginal contractions, and even sounds mentioned earlier. This has a certain specific meaning. It is a very concentrated expression of pleasure, an expression of climax, which are related but not exactly the same thing.

Netizen: I have been married to my wife for two years, but because my wife is afraid of pain, I have never entered her vagina. What should I do?

Meng Jixian: The first time the hymen ruptures, it is usually painful, but this pain is usually bearable, so women should have a correct understanding of this issue. In the past, there were a lot of incorrect propaganda, saying that the first time a woman has sexual intercourse, it is very painful and she will bleed. In fact, this propaganda is also misleading. Although there is some pain, it is bearable.

Netizen: Is it normal for white liquid to flow out of a woman's vagina after sex?

Meng Jixian: During sexual intercourse, the sexual organs of men and women will generally have certain secretions. Before a man ejaculates, some secretions will actually flow out of his penis. Women will also have some secretions during sexual excitement. This is completely normal. If the secretion has an odor, further examination is needed to see if there is any inflammation in this area.

Netizen: When I was having sex with my girlfriend, my penis went soft. What should I do? It was about 7 or 8 minutes.

Meng Jixian: It depends on whether ejaculation occurs or not. If ejaculation occurs and the penis quickly enters a non-erect period, then this process of weakness is normal. If ejaculation has not yet occurred and the penis becomes flaccid, this is a sign of insufficient sexual excitement or even a certain disorder in the male's erectile function. This requires further examination and treatment. First of all, we need to identify the cause. If ejaculation has occurred, then weakness is normal. If weakness occurs without ejaculation, then it is due to insufficient erectile function, or at least the erectile function cannot last long, and it becomes soft before reaching orgasm and ejaculation. This situation requires further correction and you should see a doctor.

Netizen: I am a middle-aged woman. I have a strong sexual desire, but my husband cannot satisfy me. I often have some sexual fantasies. What should I do?

Meng Jixian: Regardless of whether they are women or men, there are great individual differences in the intensity of sexual desire and sexual demands. Some people have very strong sexual desire, regardless of whether they are men or women, while some people are relatively indifferent. These are all normal phenomena. Your situation is generally normal. First of all, if the man cannot meet the woman's requirements, the man and the woman should strengthen communication. Of course, the woman should also take the initiative to observe the man's condition, is it a psychological or mental condition, or is it a physical reason? Because of the current social reasons, the accelerated pace of life and work, the complexity of interpersonal relationships, the difficulty of life, and the stress of work will all lead to a decline in male sexual function. In this case, women should also know that many men do not have strong sexual abilities. In fact, men's sexual abilities are also very fragile and are affected by many social and psychological factors. If it is due to social factors, work pressure, etc., then the wife should pay more attention to her husband and help him solve the psychological reasons. If it is not due to such reasons, if it is due to physical fatigue, then the couple should understand each other to maintain a harmonious sex life. In this case, the woman should also care about the man, see what the cause is, and help the man solve these problems. You should also communicate your requirements to the man.

Netizen: I hope you can give me some sexual advice?

Meng Jixian: In this regard, to have a harmonious and perfect sex life, first of all, the couple must maintain a good relationship. The sexual love between husband and wife is based on the feelings of both husband and wife. Only with a good relationship can a good foundation for sex be laid. Otherwise, without a good relationship, this kind of sex will become a sourceless water. Without the emotional foundation, there will be no long-term consolidation and development. In addition, sex is a normal human need. No matter how busy you are at work or how fast your pace of life is, you should care about your sex life and regard the sex life of the couple as a part of your life. You should give it the necessary care, give it a certain amount of time, pay a certain amount of attention to it, and have a certain amount of love and affection for each other. This is all very important. In addition, sex is accomplished by a person's body and spirit. We must maintain an optimistic mood, be open-minded about some unpleasant things in society and work, or some special events, and have a positive spirit to meet the challenges in life. Only by maintaining a happy mood can we have good sex. Another thing is to have a healthy body and a healthy lifestyle. Don't smoke, don't drink excessively, insist on necessary physical exercise, maintain a normal weight, and prevent and treat various diseases. These are all very necessary for maintaining a healthy body and are also a necessary guarantee for having a good sex life.