Is it a blessing or a curse? My wife has sex twice every night

My wife demands sex very frequently, basically more than 4 times a week, and sometimes every day. We have been married for several years, so logically our sexual desire should not be so strong. She now wants to do it twice a night. As a man, I can hardly bear it! Is this normal?

Q: My sex life with my wife is pretty good, and she sometimes asks me to do it more than once or twice a night. I am worried that frequent ejaculation will affect the kidneys, but my wife doesn't believe me. Should we exercise moderation?

A: Whether you can ejaculate multiple times in one night depends on your physical condition, age, mood, environment and the temptation of the other person. Some people can ejaculate multiple times a night and remain healthy, while others feel tired after ejaculating once. It depends on the specific situation. From the perspective of Western medicine, multiple ejaculation does not harm the kidneys, but we should pay attention to the effects on the mental and nervous systems. It's like a person should go to sleep but still forces himself to have sex. Lack of energy may cause erectile difficulties, which in turn causes anxiety. It is okay to do it occasionally, but if you do it frequently, it may further adversely affect your endocrine, cardiovascular, prostate and digestive tract, and make you more prone to aging.

Abstinence is mainly aimed at people who have suffered physical damage due to indulgence. It does not need to be emphasized for couples who have normal sexual life and are in good health. For a healthy sex life, both parties should try their best to explore "common interests" so that sex does not harm the body, but can satisfy the needs of both parties and promote the relationship between the couple. Zhang Bin said that if the wife has a desire for frequent sex, the husband can make some "tactical adjustments."

For example, if you originally had sex on Mondays and Thursdays, you can change Thursday's schedule to Saturday in order to do it more times at a time, so that you can get enough sleep and recharge your energy before sex; or let your wife have an orgasm the first time. If she is satisfied, she will naturally not rush her husband to "make up for it"; if the wife needs it again a few hours after the orgasm, the husband should rest quickly after sex, do not worry about the afterplay, and do not do other things, so as to prepare for the next time.

From another perspective, the wife should be more tolerant. When she sees her husband looking listless the next day after having sex continuously, she should exercise restraint and never "kill the goose that lays the eggs."

"Often, men ejaculate before women reach orgasm, so some women ask for multiple sex. Husbands should understand that it takes a long time for their wives to reach orgasm, and it is best to control their own speed according to the other's rhythm. Things like shifting sexual fantasies, changing body positions, controlling the degree of emotional involvement, and adjusting the frequency of movements are all effective ways to improve premature ejaculation."