Essential communication skills for married life

First move

Find sexual opportunities that have been neglected. You may always feel that you don’t have enough time. Sexologists point out that couples lack non-sleeping time to go to bed together without being disturbed, so couples must make full and appropriate use of their time.

Tip: If you have ten minutes to spare, have some quick sex. It may sound too hasty, but rushing into sex isn't necessarily a bad thing. In fact, many couples appreciate the stimulation brought by rapid sex, which can also create a secret feeling that belongs only to the two of them, especially before relatives and friends come over for dinner.

The second approach

Have you learned to touch your lover? After several years of marriage, frequently touching your lover can consolidate the relationship between the two parties better than frequent sex.

Tips: Sexologists say: "Apart from having sex, many couples rarely touch each other affectionately, and they may feel awkward about it. However, improving touching techniques can eliminate certain psychological barriers during sex." Touching your lover's hair, abdomen, back and other parts of your body will make your lover feel warm and comfortable.

The third move

Hint to your lover and express your wishes. Many men will try their best to cover every inch of your skin with sincere strength in bed in order to please you, but you may not feel happy.

Tips: If you want him to stay in a certain position, you should give him some instructions or whisper your wishes.

The fourth step

Take action immediately when sexual desire is aroused. Many people get excited in the living room, but on the way to the bedroom, they will be distracted by many things and soon lose interest. Sexologists point out that if you want to enjoy more and better sexual pleasure, you should act immediately when you are aroused.

Tips: When you feel your sexual desire rising, don't be distracted by other things, concentrate and don't let your interest slip away; do everything possible to choose a place in your home to start the action immediately.

The fifth move

Make full use of sexual fantasies. Through the above steps, your sexual communication skills have been enhanced. Now you are ready to take your verbal skills to another level - start sexual fantasies.

Tips: Let your lover know what you want, or write down what you want on a note, or try the bookmark technique: Find a scene in a book of descriptive fantasies that you want to "reenact", then mark that part with a red pen, and then put the book next to his bed.

Tip 6

Understand what your husband needs and what kind of caressing his husband likes. In fact, there are many different variations, but he is embarrassed to express it directly, so he needs his wife to understand and discover it.

Tip: He'll usually get self-conscious when you ask him to demonstrate how he likes to stroke his penis. You may want to communicate with him first. The key is that he must believe that you really want to see a demonstration, so that he will not be too awkward. Observe carefully what kind of method will make him particularly excited. How fast does he thrust? How hard does he hold it? Does he only focus on the shaft, or does he also include the glans and testicles? The following parts are very important: Does he continue thrusting throughout the entire process of orgasm, or does he stop before it comes? The next time you make love, you may wish to apply the information you obtain from your observations to practice. I guarantee that he will be very satisfied.

The seventh move

To maintain good sex, both parties need to arouse sexual emotions to achieve the best results.

Tips: Generally speaking, when both men and women are complimented and pleased, they will be more enthusiastic about having sex.

The eighth move

Planning a sex trip Most people like to choose the wildest places to do the wildest things, which makes sex special.

Tips: Sit down with your husband and plan an itinerary that you have never tried before and that is most arousing to you. Creating interest will make you two feel as close as lovers.