7 hurdles to a happy marriage

Stage 1: Passion

It mainly refers to the honeymoon period, when the couple is in love and the marriage is full of excitement, sexual interest and intimacy. This stage usually lasts until one year after marriage, and love is the focus of life.

Advice: Marriage is a turning point in life. After marriage, you should learn to establish the concept of two people, and think less about "me" and more about "us" in everything. Take advantage of this harmonious stage to develop common living habits.

Phase 2: Running-in period

Disappointment and conflict become the themes of this stage. You begin to discover that the other person is not perfect and has many shortcomings and deficiencies that you cannot tolerate. You begin to argue over trivial matters and even begin to doubt your own choices. This stage usually occurs 1-2 years after marriage.

Advice: This is a very important period. If handled well, it will lay the foundation for long-term companionship in the future. We should break the unrealistic fantasies about marriage, pay attention to empathy, and don't try too hard to change the other person. Respect is more important.

Stage 3: Rebellious period

You quarrel frequently, and one of you even has a tendency to have an affair, which causes you to doubt each other's loyalty. This stage usually lasts for several years, usually occurring 3-7 years after marriage.

Advice: Never have an affair easily. Even if problems arise, do not give up on your marriage easily. Respect and understand each other, and you will be able to get through the difficult times.

Phase 4: Cooperation

After having children, you work tirelessly for your family, your career flourishes, and you create a bright future together. This period usually arrives 5 years after marriage.

Advice: With elderly parents and young children to take care of, you will be very busy every day. Relive the romantic feelings occasionally and boldly say "love" to him (her), and you will become an enviable happy couple.

Phase 5: Reorganization

As the children grow up and the family foundation becomes stable, love begins to transform into family affection, and there will be more giving in and fewer quarrels between you. At this point, you have been together for 15 years.

Advice: The busyness of the previous stage has made your bodies less flexible. Now is the time to put health on the agenda. Exercising together, doing housework together, and going on vacation together will make your married life more fulfilling.

Stage 6: Crisis

When the midlife crisis comes, you may experience some major changes in your life, such as a serious illness or even death of one of your parents, or you may encounter bottlenecks in your career. Many unfortunate things impact the entire family. This stage may appear after 20 years of marriage.

Advice: The pressure is self-evident. The two of you must learn to face it together, support and comfort each other. As long as you get through this period, you will never leave each other.

Stage 7: Perfection

The building phase of the marriage is over, you both have gotten to know each other completely and want to spend your old age with each other. At this point you have been together for at least 25 years.

Advice: Although the setting sun makes people feel the sadness of life, recalling the journey of marriage you have walked together will bring warmth and happiness.