Things men and women should do when living together

Nowadays, cohabitation before marriage is the norm. If two people are "dating with the intention of getting married", then cohabitation is equivalent to a trial marriage. Such cohabitation is related to future happiness. Generally speaking, if two people reach the point of breaking up or divorcing, the common reasons are "incompatibility of personality" and "lack of common language". These two reasons can actually be known through many details. When living together, the most important thing to do is to pay attention to some details to avoid marrying the wrong person in the future.

1. Parents of both parties

If his parents still treat him as a child and hope that you will coax him like he does, and he also enjoys the treatment of being a son, but your maternal love is not that strong, there will be a lot of friction in the future; if the parents of both sides do not get along well and even superficial harmony is difficult to achieve, it will also become a problem; if you don’t like his parents, or he can’t stand your parents, it will also become a hidden danger to your future happiness.

2. How to spend your rest days

If you like to sleep in on your days off, but he likes to get up early to clean the house and won't stop waking you up, a quarrel is inevitable. Only parents can tolerate the friction caused by different waking up times; on the other hand, if the other party is indecisive and can never make up his mind about what to do together on the weekend, or conversely, always makes a rough decision about what to do, it will cause unhappiness.

But this problem is easier to solve. Both parties can set a rule, for example, Saturday is girls' day and Sunday is boys' day. On girls' day, girls will be given priority and girls will be listened to in everything. vice versa.

3. Whether the discussion about the child can reach a consensus

Before marriage, this topic must be discussed in depth and repeatedly to find out whether the other party's ideas are consistent with your own. For example, whether one wants children and the other doesn’t; one wants a rote learning education and the other wants to develop his or her individuality, etc.

4. How to use money

One is thrifty, the other is wasteful. For example, when receiving the water and electricity bills every month, the thrifty one may complain: Why do you always forget to turn off the lights? Why do you leave the water running when brushing your teeth? One buys whatever he likes, the other always buys cheap stuff... The difference in how to use money and the different ways of buying things actually include the difference in the entire value system.

5. Housework

In fact, it not only includes the question of who should do how much housework, but also requires attention to some trivial matters: for example, one person likes to throw things around, while the other hangs clothes at almost the same distance from each other; one likes to collect everything, while the other treats magazines as garbage after reading them; even small details like the difference in squeezing toothpaste can add up to big things, and such details often become the fuse of a big quarrel.

Other details of life that need attention include: TV remote control rights; diet (noise during meals; excessive drinking; whether to continue eating or throw away overnight food...); especially now that more and more people are buying cars, a new problem arises: when you are driving, does he always give instructions (nagging)? Does he always ask you to drive according to his route? It seems that men who have learned to keep silent are becoming increasingly rare nowadays.