The biggest obstacle to marital intimacy is this

Logically speaking, a couple living under the same roof should not have any communication problems, not to mention being together all day long, so how can they not have an intimate relationship? However, in this world, such things do happen. Not only is there no intimacy between husband and wife, there is no even basic communication!

Marriage psychologists believe that the way people speak and their life beliefs are factors that make or break intimacy between couples. The communication between men and women is actually the communication between two different cultures. In addition to the most important gender awareness, cultural background, family education, geographical location and personal growth will also become factors that determine whether the communication between men and women is smooth.

After long-term research, marriage psychologists have concluded that the following factors become obstacles that prevent couples from establishing an intimate relationship.

1. Not being able to truly listen to what the other person is saying.

2. Pay too much attention to your own opinions and ignore the other party’s opinions.

3. Have a defensive mentality and a basic need to protect oneself.

4. Try to change the other person instead of changing yourself first.

5. Look at people with stereotypes instead of observing them dynamically.

6. Blinded by prejudice.

7. While being conservative, you also do not allow the other party to change.

8. You cannot clearly tell the other person what you need, but you still want them to know.

9. Often make assumptions about others without verifying their truth.

10. Avoiding responsibility and often putting the blame on others once a problem occurs.

Therefore, marriage psychologists suggest that when you communicate with your partner or encounter problems, first make clear a principle: only when a person correctly repeats the thoughts and emotions of the previous speaker and expresses satisfaction, can he express his own speech.