Love scheming: Playing dumb makes you happier

Pretending to be stupid does not mean being really stupid. A smart woman will not act more manly than a man in front of him. Knowing when to show weakness and ask for help from him is easier to conquer his heart than showing off your aggressiveness. This is the smart woman's little trick for happiness.

The cleverness of always trying to be strong and to be the first is not true intelligence. Although showing off one's cleverness everywhere and not knowing how to hide one's shortcomings can easily attract attention, it can also easily cause controversy and even lead to groundless misunderstandings and misinterpretations.

Everything requires balance, but the most difficult thing to grasp is often the fulcrum for balancing both sides. In a relationship, if one party is too dominant, it will eventually lead to an imbalance in love and a breakdown in the relationship.

Just like in "Love Is Not Blind", although the boyfriend's deception and betrayal make people angry, both parties have an unshirkable responsibility in the failed relationship. So we come to the conclusion that the relationship between men and women in love must be equal and balanced, with give and take, and mutual tolerance, concessions and understanding can make the vitality of happiness last forever.

The essence of happy emotional intelligence is to give him some opportunities to perform, so that he can give full play to his advantages as a man, without violating principles, touching the bottom line, or hurting himself. For example, let him drive on the road with his excellent sense of direction. He can not only have the caring service of a free driver, but also save the man's habitual nagging when the woman is driving. It's like killing two birds with one stone! This is the victory of a woman's scheming. Yueji’s suggestion: Learn these three tricks of “playing dumb”, he will be more fascinated by your maturity, understanding, confusion and cuteness.

If you have the lead in the relationship:

1. Let him know his importance

If you are the dominant person in the relationship and have the upper hand in your love life, then the first thing you can be sure of is that he must love you very much and is willing to tolerate and accept all of you.

The wrong approach of taking advantage of your love will only challenge his patience again and again. The smart way to please yourself is to let him know in time that he holds an equally important position in your heart. When you make some small mistakes, ask him for help to solve them; confide your work and life problems to him and expect to seriously consider his opinions.

Make him realize that his existence is vital to you. Acting coquettishly and cutely to him from time to time is also an effective way to maintain your feminine charm. Don't let the roles in a relationship change: Remember, you are the one who needs his protection, not the one who makes decisions for him. Only in this way can the relationship be stable and long-lasting.

2. Think from others’ perspective

Remember, as the one who has the dominant position in the relationship, you also have to consider the man's feelings. The key to improving the quality of love is that both parties can find a sense of belonging and participation in it. Like women, men actually need the dual recognition from you and love to have unlimited motivation and passion, and continue to shine, contribute energy. Therefore, knowing how to think from his perspective, thinking what he thinks, and being considerate and understanding are always the best ways to conquer a man.

3. Control your emotions

Fooling around is actually a kind of trust. You know in your heart that no matter how angry you are, he will not go away, and subconsciously you believe that he will always tolerate your little temper. But over time, the girls' worsening behavior will eventually make men tired and bored. If you want to cheat, remember to do it within your means, understand his psychological tolerance and scope, strive for more within his acceptable range, assess the situation and weigh the pros and cons in areas where he cannot compromise, control your negative emotions, and learn to self-regulate in order to properly adjust the direction of your love life.

Sometimes the power of silent destruction is more powerful than that of impulsive behavior. The temperament of a mature woman needs to be cultivated and honed over time.