10 reasons why women say "no" to sex

For many people, the most fearful thing at the moment of passion is being hit with a cold response. Such a sexual blow is no less than being rejected for a job after graduation. However, behind the simple excuse of "I'm not in the mood" lies a hidden message that cannot be ignored. Let’s take a look together.

1. Feeling that you have gained weight

The truth: Women pay more attention to their body shape than their appearance. Once they feel that they have gained weight, they will become insecure about their body shape. So during sex, she doesn't want to expose her fat body in front of her husband and will find various excuses to avoid it.

Suggestion: Her nervousness actually means that she cares about you. You should make her relax, such as gently caressing her, saying sweet words, etc. Be careful not to use words like "you should lose weight soon" as motivation, as that would be like "bringing up something unrelated" and would be counterproductive.

2. Stomach discomfort

The truth: Indigestion and stomach upset may be minor illnesses, but they are embarrassing for women. Especially if there are indecent sounds or smells, she will often feel embarrassed in front of her lover, and naturally she will lose interest.

Suggestion: Take it easy and wait until your body recovers. It should be noted that if you are planning to have sex, do not eat too much gas-causing foods such as beans and sweet potatoes for dinner.

3. During menstruation (or before and after)

The truth: On the one hand, they are afraid that their bodies are dirty and will dirty the sheets; on the other hand, they are worried that having sex at this time may lead to infection.

Recommendation: Menstruation is the most vulnerable period for women. Gynecological diseases such as endometrial shedding and bleeding, cervicitis, pelvic inflammatory disease, etc. are directly related to sexual intercourse during menstruation. Therefore, menstruation is also a "red light" during sex, please stop when it is time to stop.

4. Wearing old underwear

The truth: This is a secret she can't tell. A woman dresses up to please herself. She always hopes that her lover can always see her most perfect side and will not let those old-fashioned and ill-fitting underwear ruin her image.

Suggestion: Find an excuse to give her a chance to change, such as "I'm going to take a shower first" or "I've run out of condoms, I'm going downstairs to buy some more", and then wait for a surprise when you come back.

5. Sweaty

The truth: Being sticky during sex is not a pleasant experience. A hot and humid environment not only makes people feel irritable, but also often makes them less sexually active.

Suggestion: If she keeps complaining about being hot, don't rush in and force her, as it won't be a fun experience. Why not take a shower together first, then turn on the air conditioner to get rid of the "third party" of sweat.

6. There are elders at home or children sleeping next to you

The truth: Women are particularly concerned about what others think. When elders or children are at home, even if the door is closed, they are always worried that the noise they make will alarm the elders and wake up the children. Even if she managed to do it, she was always too cautious and couldn't enjoy it to her heart's content.

Recommendation: If you live with elders, it is necessary to strengthen sound insulation during decoration.

7. Not in the right state

The truth: Unlike men, women are slower to become sexually aroused, and sometimes their bodies haven’t fully reached the state yet, causing discomfort such as pain and dryness. If this happens many times, it will leave a shadow on women and make them afraid of sex.

Suggestion: Use some lubricant. However, although lubricants are effective, enhancing foreplay is a better option.

8. Not taking a shower

The truth: Most women have mysophobia. If they have sex without taking a shower, their bodies may have a bit of odor. Especially when kissing or teasing, will they lick the dirt off their bodies? These subconscious cues will affect sex.

Recommendation: Before having sex, both parties should wash their bodies thoroughly. It is worth noting that you should not use water that is too hot, because it will distribute blood circulation throughout the body, causing local congestion and difficulty in erection.

9. The TV series is not over yet

The truth: The latest research shows that placing a TV in the bedroom can reduce the frequency of sexual intercourse between couples by more than half; the older you are, the more dependent you are on TV, and the more serious the impact on sex.

Suggestion: If you don’t want to compete with a wonderful TV series for the right to sex, then you shouldn’t let it into the bedroom from the beginning. The charm of this “third party” is beyond your estimation, and the living room is the most suitable place for it.

10. A man's cigarette

The truth: The lingering smoke can irritate people. If you smoke for a long time, the nicotine in the cigarettes will damage tiny blood vessels and cause a decline in sexual ability. Women are particularly sensitive and disgusted by smoke.

Recommendation: Stay away from tobacco, or at least don't let it into your home.

Experts say

For many men, encountering sexual rejection from their wives seems to have become "commonplace". Although they feel depressed, they can do nothing about it. In the eyes of most people, women's sexual needs are not as high as men's because men's sexual desire is not affected by hormones and is easily aroused by visuals.

But that's not the case. Women are mostly sensitive and delicate in character. Unlike men who get straight to the point, they are more easily influenced by various factors, including environmental, psychological, and physical factors, many of which are just trivial matters. Moreover, due to their reservedness, women often do not express themselves directly, which always makes it difficult for men to understand.

A harmonious and peaceful sex life is a natural physiological need of men and women and a common desire of both husband and wife. If you are rejected by your wife, don't be fooled by appearances. I remember someone said that women just like to turn a simple path into a maze, and the process of deciphering the puzzle is the wonderful foreplay. If you think about it carefully, there is actually a deeper reason behind her refusal. Only by finding this secret can you successfully reach the other side, and she is laughing in the bushes!