What should the lifestyle of a couple be like?

With the improvement of human living standards, lifestyle problems between couples also arise. According to statistics, there are many divorce cases in the country every year. Why are there so many divorce cases? Is it because of the lifestyle problems of couples or other reasons, or is it because of personality reasons? The following are some ways that the editor has collected on how to deal with the lifestyle of couples. Let us take a look.

Dr. Harriet Lerner, a famous American clinical psychologist, mentioned in her new book "Marriage Rules: A Guide for Married and Cohabiting Couples": "Passively waiting for the other person to change will only accelerate the destruction of the marriage. The best way is to take positive action yourself." In the book, Dr. Lerner mentioned several best rules for couples to get along with each other, so that couples can love and live in harmony.

Rule 1: Imagine that there is a guest living in your home. Married people treat strangers much better than they treat their partners. Dr. Lerner once worked with a couple who would scream at each other whenever they were alone. So, Lena suggested that one of their colleagues move in with them for a few months. As a result, the couple became respectful to each other. In this regard, Dr. Lerna pointed out that imagining that there is a guest living in the house can greatly improve the partner's ability to control his or her emotions.

Rule 2: Criticize others no more than once a day. As the two people get to know each other better, the words of praise become less and less, and the words of criticism become more and more. No one can tolerate a marriage where criticism outweighs appreciation. So both spouses should keep their mouths shut and, ideally, criticize each other no more than once a day.

Rule three: Remember the “three sentences” principle. Many men are afraid of getting into an endless argument. What bothers men the most is the speed, number of sentences and volume of a woman's speech when she is angry. So lower your volume, speak slower, and try to express yourself in three sentences.

The above are some methods that the editor has collected on how to deal with the lifestyle of couples. In fact, friction between couples is inevitable. The key is how you deal with it. The editor knows that many couples like to use cold violence to deal with problems. This is wrong. Cold violence is very detrimental to both husband and wife. The editor reminds everyone to have a reasonable lifestyle of couples.