Women need love, but men only want sex

1. Women need affection to have sex, but men don’t need affection to have sex.

Alan Ehir (hereinafter referred to as Alan): In the past, women did associate emotions with sex. But I find that women today are different. They accept romantic encounters and display strong sexual energy during them, far exceeding that when they are with their spouses. Because when they have sex with their spouses, they will pay attention to their spouses' reactions and cannot completely relax and enjoy themselves. Some men really don't need emotions to have sex. They worry: "I'll be embarrassed if I ask my wife to do this for me." Such men are cautious in their married life, but will be free and unrestrained in a romantic encounter.

Mihaly Bonnierba (hereinafter referred to as Mihaly): Let’s first look at the survey on the reasons for first sexual intercourse. Among girls, 80% of their virginity is out of "love"; while among boys, 80% is to satisfy desire and curiosity. Based on this data, the above statement is correct.

After their first sexual intercourse, boys with a stronger Oedipus complex may continue this tendency to separate affection from eroticism. In their subconscious, feminine tenderness is associated with the image of the mother, while pornography is another matter. They would divide women into mothers and prostitutes, one representing purity and the other representing filth. Too much affection will only reduce their sexual desire. Such a man will not be too open in his sex life with his wife. For women, the atmosphere when meeting is particularly important. The greater the tension between a man and a woman, the more blossoming the woman's sexual expression will be. What helps a woman to have sexual pleasure is not necessarily love. Quality communication and care and consideration from men can arouse women's desire.

2. Men need to have sex frequently, while women are more likely to face a sexless life

Alan: In order to maintain good function of the testicles and prostate, men need to ejaculate almost every day. A woman's desire is influenced more by her brain and less by her body chemistry. For women, sexuality is a form of their own existence; men project more of a competitive consciousness.

Mihaly: That’s true, but it also has something to do with age. Before the age of 35, men's bodies are filled with male hormones that drive them to compete for beauty; after the age of 35, men's testosterone levels will decline. Unlike young men, young women are less controlled by female hormones and do not have much demand for sex. However, as their bodies mature and taboos in their minds disappear, their demand for sex will gradually increase. There is one thing in common at different stages of a woman's life: once a woman finds love, she will be more likely to face a sexless life than a man.

3. Men are often excited by parts of the body, while women are often excited by the whole body.

Alan: One fact that supports this statement is that most fetishists are men. Fetishism is replacing the whole with a part. They are obsessed with women's feet, legs and even shoes. When people ask a man what he loves about a woman, his answer is often that he loves her breasts, buttocks or some other part of her body; if you ask the same question to a woman, she may say that she loves the man's demeanor, etc.

Why is there a difference between "partial" and "overall" love between men's love and women's love? The reason can be found in Jewish and Christian culture. It wasn't until the 1950s that Judeo-Christian culture accepted nudity. Before this, women needed to hide certain parts of their bodies, which led to men's "partial view". There was a time when catching a glimpse of a woman's ankles was something to brag about!

Mihaly: Men do get excited by seeing certain parts of the body. In sex shops, what is sold to men are often "parts of women's body", such as super large inflatable breasts, and some black things that can remind men of women's vaginas... and women's desires often come from men's desires. From the strange look in men's eyes, women will find that they have aroused the desire of the man in front of them. So, she also became excited...