9 types of physical desires between men and women

"Understanding each other's sexual desire type can help couples establish new communication patterns, eliminate misunderstandings about each other's desires, and discover the hidden power of their relationship." Now work with your partner to identify which type you each belong to.

1. Sensing

You prioritize emotional intimacy over sexual performance, and you're likely to complain if your partner isn't being genuine and affectionate during sex. Try re-evaluating your relationship: If your partner's sexual expression is different from yours, remember that it's his or her way of getting pleasure, not that he or she is indifferent.

2. Exuberant type

This is the kind of passionate, "ideal" sex we often see in movies: the courage to push boundaries and constantly try new techniques. For a sexual partner who likes to follow the rules, your exuberant personality can be criticized. Unless your partner is also an "energizing" person, your sexual attitude will be too overbearing for your partner. You need to pay attention to your partner's sexual style and gently encourage your partner when you try new methods.

3. Dependency

You crave sex to relax and often use it to cope with stress. If you are rejected sexually, you will feel insecure. This type of person is mostly male and usually starts during adolescence, when you rely on masturbation to deal with stress and insomnia. One solution is to find other ways to relieve stress, such as learning some breathing techniques or doing self-relaxation activities.

4. Qualification type

You believe that the sex you desire in a mutual relationship is owed to you. You ignore your own sexual motivations and assume that your partner should meet your needs. Lovers of this type must realize that a good relationship depends on a mutual understanding of the sexual needs of both parties. You need to acknowledge your partner's needs and recognize that they are just as valid as yours.

5. Addiction

This type is relatively rare and may be due to genetics: your sexual drive is simply too high and difficult to control. Likewise, it may stem from an emotional insecurity: that if someone responds to you sexually, you'll be manipulated. You may seek sex outside of your relationship. But how much do you value your partner? If partners are willing to be honest with each other, they can get along for a long time.

6. Reactive

When you satisfy your partner sexually, you also gain the greatest satisfaction and pleasure. To some partners, you are a good lover. However, for some other partners, it is because you are not confident enough and you do not dare to expect that your needs can be met. Responsive people must realize that it is natural to prioritize their own sexual needs. Moreover, by doing this you may be depriving your partner of the right to give you sexual pleasure.

7. Cold type

The reasons for sexual apathy may be emotional or biological. Some people have a persistent low interest in sex, while others experience a decrease in interest in the early stages of a relationship. Cold people should strive to become more sensual and carnal, reduce their concerns about physical passion, and enjoy tenderness, affection and intimacy.

8. Separation type

Your sex drive is quite high and you are able to perform well in sexual matters without any difficulty, but you feel distracted. This is often attributed to difficult life events, such as work stress or the loss of a loved one. These dilemmas distract you and make sex less important.

If you're stressed out at work or by other issues, talk openly with your partner about the stress you're under and try to relax yourself using some techniques.

9. Compulsory

This is the most complex and rarest type. You enjoy specific sexual rituals and may use erotic props to stimulate your sexual desire. When you do this, you are fulfilling an inner need rather than making an emotional connection. If you want your partner to join in, you need to strike a balance between when you indulge in the sexual activities you enjoy and when your sexual activities focus on your partner's needs.

What happens if a person's sexual desire type does not match that of his partner? We often hear some men say to their partners: You are so cold, what's wrong with you? Or: You don't care about me because your desire for sex is not as strong as mine. Women say: He is not considerate at all, he always wants something, he doesn't care about my feelings at all, etc. How hurtful these words are! There are many ways to gain passion. Even if your sexual partner is gentle and likes quietness, and you don't have sex frequently, your sex life can still be meaningful.