It’s not shameful to actively “chase” someone! 5 ways to increase your confession success rate

When the years are peaceful and love is stable, perhaps friends around you will often ask: Who pursued who first? At this time, even though the two people say that they will not give in to each other, in their hearts, who will really care who pursued who first? If there finally comes such a day, everything you have done in the past will be worth it.

1. Whether the confession will be successful or not is already determined

No matter the location is a romantic restaurant or under a bridge, no matter the token is a luxury car and roses or a card with words on it, no matter the means are subtle or direct, it will not have much impact on the result of the confession. His previous impression of you and the groundwork you have laid are the key to success or failure.

In reality, we see that even if a man begs on his knees, the woman may ignore him. It is not uncommon for some boys to place candles and rose petals downstairs of the dormitory building, but the other party will still refuse. However, if two people are attracted to each other, they can hold hands and chat for a few minutes on the street and then decide to spend their lives together. As I said, the form of confession is not important, the preparation made before is the most important.

2. If you are timid, choose a place where there is no one.

In fact, not all confessions need to be witnessed by everyone. If the other party agrees, there is nothing wrong with it, but if they refuse, you will be very embarrassed. In contrast, since you only want to tell him what's in your heart, you might as well find a place where there is no one and quietly express your love to him. If you really don't dare, you might as well just send him a text message.

If you disagree, no one will know except you and him; if you agree, it’s not too late to show off to your friends.

3. Confession is a serious matter

Your friends may give you some advice, telling you to confess your love when you are drunk, as you will be bolder at this time. If the other party refuses, you can say that you were confused at the time. Others say that it is better to confess your love on April Fool's Day. If the other party refuses, you can say that you are joking to save some face.

Honestly speaking, both approaches are unwise. They can easily make the other person think that your confession is just a joke, and may even make the man mistakenly think that you are not serious about the relationship. Similarly, a smart man will reject you effortlessly: I'm sorry, you were really drunk! No matter how you explain afterwards, he will use this as an excuse to make you appear very passive.

Confession is a very serious matter. You may not care about it in your heart, but at least you should show a serious attitude.

4. Don’t force him to say “yes” or “no”

The purpose of confession is more to express your love for him, rather than to force him to make a decision on whether to stay or leave. Even if he rejects you at first, you don't have to get angry or even threaten him, causing him great psychological pressure. If the two of them had a falling out, he would have no choice.

A smart woman will give a man enough time to consider before he makes a decision: You may not have known me very well before, so you don’t have to rush to answer. If possible, we might as well date for a while and make a decision after you have thought it through.

A smart woman will make everything clear, including why she chose to fall in love with him, what about him fascinates her, and then guess his concerns from his tone. In the days that follow, women should try their best to eliminate the other person's worries and doubts and make him feel that falling in love with her is a worthwhile thing.

In this way, the other party will naturally become confused and his attitude towards you will change. The woman once again took control of the entire situation.

5. Can women take the initiative to express their feelings?

There are also some girls who are not afraid to express their feelings, but are unwilling to do so. Because they often hear others say that women should not be too proactive, otherwise they will spoil men and make men feel humble.

In fact, we often say that women cannot be too proactive. This does not mean that women cannot confess to men and speak their minds boldly. Rather, it means that after being rejected by the other party, women continue to pursue the man again and again and act according to the man's mood. Such behavior will spoil the man and make him feel that you are cheap.

The reason why people express love is nothing more than to let the other person understand their feelings and let him love you too. Since actions cannot make him understand, why not express your feelings directly and let the other person understand clearly?

The party who took the initiative to confess did not behave in a humble manner, and the party who received the confession did not have anything to brag about. Confessing your love is not as difficult as you think, really.