The three periods when rifts are most likely to occur between couples

The three most dangerous stages between couples are the first year of marriage, the third year of marriage, and the seven-year itch. The reasons are as follows:

(1) The first year of marriage.

Newlyweds have gotten rid of the immaturity of love and the pampering of their parents and have been promoted to the CEOs of their marriage. Husbands and wives may fight openly and secretly for "power"; they will adapt to each other's living habits; they will see through each other's shortcomings; they may suddenly stop their sex life because the wife is pregnant; they may become parents because of the birth of a new life.

This year is the most challenging time for couples’ relationships. However, although many couples may be dissatisfied with each other, the warmth of their love is still there. Basically, they will carry the excitement of becoming new parents and ignore each other’s shortcomings. But not every couple can bear the discomfort during this period.

This year, the two things that most challenged the integrity of a marriage were: the man cheated on his wife during her pregnancy; and the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law had different opinions on the issue of the newborn.

For this reason, newlyweds, men need to pay attention to being more tolerant and accompanying their wives during their wives' pregnancy, and never be unable to bear the loneliness and engage in physical infidelity, otherwise, it will be the beginning of marital conflicts; women need to pay attention to not being fussy about the details of their mother-in-law's care of them during the confinement period and their children, but being grateful for everything they have done for them. There may be some things that you cannot agree with, but you must always remember that your mother-in-law has worked hard even if she has no credit.

(2) The third year of marriage.

If newlyweds can smoothly get through the first year of marriage relying on the passion they had when they were in love, then couples need to understand that the average period for opposite sexes to go from feeling fresh, to feeling affectionate, to getting tired of each other is three years. In other words, from the moment they get married, couples should gradually learn to accept each other and try not to cause too much harm to the marriage. Otherwise, after three years of endurance, the love between the couple will be gone, and all that will be left for each other are memories of hurting each other. At this point, all the couple can give each other are complaints.

Husband and wife need to be tolerant of each other, but when faced with their lover's obvious shortcomings, they need to correct them in time. If there is only tolerance but no fine-tuning between husband and wife, then your lover's shortcomings will weigh too much on your heart and will overwhelm your ability to bear them. At that time, you will burst out with all your strength, and in return you will certainly get your lover's unfamiliarity, surprise, and even a little unpreparedness.

Don't make excessive compromises in your marriage. Sometimes, you can express your dissatisfaction or expectations to your lover so that he or she can see the real you. If your lover occasionally criticizes you, you should reflect on yourself in time. If it is indeed your fault, you should correct it as soon as possible. If it is not your fault, don't take your lover's "dislike" too seriously.

In the third year of marriage, many people have the idea of ​​divorce because of poor communication between the couple. However, because of their young children, they continue to endure it in secret.

(3) The seven-year itch.

After seven years of marriage, holding each other's hands is like holding the left hand with the right hand. With the wear and tear of life's trivialities, the pressure of career, and the numbness after completely adapting to each other, couples will feel that their marriage lacks some passion, and at this time they both have the urge to cheat. Once one party cheats first, the other party will give up the idea of ​​cheating, because at this point, the truth that they don't want a divorce will be revealed to each other, and they will reflexively start a fight with the mistress, either appropriately or inappropriately.

Of course, cheating causes enormous harm to the party who sticks to the marriage. When the affair is exposed and the marriage may collapse, the cheating party may not want to get divorced, which is the true nature of human beings. This is because people all have the mentality of not cherishing what they have and wanting to have it again after losing it. Unfortunately, not everyone can accept their lover's cheating.

In the seventh year of marriage, if you feel bored with your marriage, please do not doubt your feelings for each other, but examine your own mentality. At this time, you need to add some sugar to your marriage in time. Or consciously do things to make the other person happy, or consciously adjust the usual pattern of managing the marriage, or consciously participate in more meaningful activities as a couple.

When a marriage becomes bleak, you must find ways to keep the love strong. By overcoming the seven-year itch, couples can basically maintain a healthy track.