Why men fall in love with their confidantes

All men long to have a confidante. If a good friend is a fine wine, a confidante is undoubtedly the most intoxicating kind.

They are more careful, and there is only a thin layer of paper between them and their lovers. That kind of ambiguous relationship that is hard to explain makes many men fall in love with them.

1. She doesn’t monopolize you but you can relate to her

When you are lying in bed and fighting against pain, the person who holds your hand, panic-stricken and in tears must be your wife. She is afraid that you will be in pain and die, and she wishes she could feel the pain and die for you. She cries and clings to you, which moves you and makes you feel uneasy. But your confidante does not cry. She just stands at the head of the bed, staring at you quietly, reading your soul, and then uses her mouth, her eyes, and her heart to tell you that she knows where your pain is, she understands you, and is willing to share your burden silently, so that your soul is no longer lonely and you are comforted. From this we can see the essential difference between the two: crying is because I love you; not crying is because I understand you.

For a man, if he has a woman who loves him deeply and a woman who understands him, what else can he ask for?

2. All confidantes are extremely intelligent girls

A woman who can be a confidante actually knows best in her heart: if a woman wants to be eternal in a man’s life, she must either be his mother or his confidante which he can never have. I understand him, but I just don’t belong to him.

Give him just the right amount of care, but don't give him too much affection, don't let him feel threatened that you will fall in love with him, and don't let him have the impulse and passion to fall in love with you. This is the skill of being a confidante. After all, a confidante encompasses many things. Love is too short, marriage is too boring, only a close female friend lasts forever. Therefore, women who are content to be a man's confidante are usually open-minded and smart.

According to the survey, in the Saike virtual family, after buying a virtual four-star villa, the family relationship that men like to form most is a confidante, and the most popular type of woman is always inseparable from words such as "gentle, intelligent, understanding..."

3. Satisfy men’s vanity

Some women are born to be friends. They like relaxed relationships and hate being tied down like men do. This is undoubtedly the type of friend that more men appreciate. So even if they are not so "close friends", men still like to be friends with such women.

Enjoying the care and closeness of a woman other than his wife or lover can satisfy a man's vanity to a great extent.

4. A confidante is the perfect listener

Usually, the wife is the one who talks, while the confidante is the one who listens. In front of her, a man can be a tired bird, a prodigal son, he can be exhausted, lonely, helpless, escapist, and lazy, and she can accept your darkness, give you quietness, and be the space for you to restore your energy. Therefore, a confidante is the most beautiful woman in the world.

If the wife is the sun and the lover is the moon, then the confidante is the stars. The sun and the moon sometimes get tired, but the stars never do. They twinkle and flicker, content with loneliness yet brilliant and long-lasting.

No matter how high and mighty you are in front of others, you should not be looked up to. In the eyes of your confidante, you only have dignity but no majesty. She can penetrate through layers of masks, enter your heart as if she were in an empty space, and have a soul-to-soul conversation and communication with you in a language that both you and her understand.

5. There is only a thin line between a confidante and a lover

If you fall in love with a woman, you can first let her become your confidante. In the slow emotional communication, penetrate her heart. In the constant understanding, you will find that the feelings between the two are constantly heating up. Then when to have physical relations and become lovers is just a matter of subjective will.

But once you have sex, your relationship is no longer just friends, but lovers, and the way you get along with each other will be completely different. Therefore, Saike Virtual Family sincerely reminds you that although it is easy to have friends of the opposite sex, it is not easy to find a confidante, so cherish her when you meet her.