How to appease men's old hypersexuality

What should I do if my husband has a strong sexual desire?

We have been married for half a year, and my husband has a very strong sexual desire, which is very strong both during the day and at night. Now, once a day has become a routine, 2 to 3 times a day is not surprising, and there have even been several times when he called me home at noon. Not only are his sexual impulses excessive, but they also come too quickly and are too strong, often difficult to suppress and out of control. He often wants to do it immediately after thinking of it, and has no idea what fatigue is. This made me very disgusted and I often quarreled with him about it. I am worried that if this continues, there will be adverse consequences. What if his body breaks down?

Hypersexuality is often caused by psychological factors

Experts believe that this reader's husband suffers from hypersexuality. If sexual desire is abnormally strong, it should be controlled, otherwise it will lead to a decline in sexual ability and it will be difficult to recover.

Analyzing the causes of hypersexuality, most of them are psychological factors, the most common ones are as follows:

① Being obsessed with and fond of the spouse, and being overly indulgent; ② There is a strong sexual atmosphere in the living environment, and being sexually stimulated at any time; ③ Having had many intoxicating sexual experiences, which are endless aftertastes, so being overly obsessed with sexual pleasure experiences; ④ Being very interested in sexual issues, and often focusing too much attention on sexual issues; ⑤ Comparing the strength of sexual ability with others to show that one is superior; ⑥ Thinking that frequent sex is the most modern and romantic way of life; ⑦ Being afraid of losing the other party, and having a strong desire for possession and domination; ⑧ The idea of ​​"male superiority and female inferiority" is playing tricks, and always wanting to "conquer" the woman with sexual lifestyle; ⑨ Being afraid of one's own sexual ability being inadequate, and being afraid that the spouse's sex life will not be satisfied, so constantly expressing oneself through sexual behavior.

Teach you four ways to deal with hypersexuality

How to control hypersexuality? You can try the following four methods.

1. Restrain the sexual thoughts deep in your mind

People with hypersexuality have frequent sexual intercourse, with the sole purpose of obtaining more sexual pleasure. Therefore, it is necessary to first restrain the "source" of sexual thoughts.

The specific method is: force yourself to calm down, carefully read a few books that introduce healthy sexual physiology and sexual psychology, and have a rational understanding of sex. Proactively communicate with your spouse and ask for supervision. Whenever sexual thoughts come, you can silently remind yourself to stay away from such thoughts; if it doesn't work, you can say "no" to yourself loudly and repeatedly to forcibly suppress the sexual thoughts.

2. Restrict sexuality in the environment

In daily life and the surrounding environment, any things or words with sexual connotations may become the fuse that triggers sexual desire and must be blocked as much as possible, including movies, movies, books, pictures, audio, etc. In short, try to reduce all kinds of sexual stimuli in the environment as much as possible. Subjectively, one should consciously avoid conversations with others involving sexual content, and also consciously avoid paying attention to the opposite sex, and try to distract one's attention from originally focusing on sexual issues.

3. Restrain your immediate sexual impulses

Under normal circumstances, once sexual impulses arise, they can be suppressed by willpower. However, people with hypersexuality are weak-willed in this regard and sometimes find it difficult to control themselves, so it is necessary to take some temporary measures: ① Soak your feet in cold water immediately or apply cold towels to your sexual organs, and empty your urine in time; ② Change the environment in time, such as going to the street, or talking to friends and relatives; ③ Do an activity you like in time, such as listening to music, playing ball, playing chess, surfing the Internet, etc., to divert your attention from sexual impulses; ④ Tell your spouse in time to let him or her consciously avoid sex, etc. In addition, on days when sexual desire is strong, you might as well soak your feet in cold water before going to bed. This can reduce the congestion of the sexual organs and help reduce sexual impulses.

4. Limit the frequency of sexual intercourse

The couple jointly develop a sex plan, which stipulates a certain number of days for sexual intercourse. The frequency should be reasonable and appropriate, not too frequent or too infrequent. For example, young and middle-aged people can do it 1 to 2 times a week, and middle-aged and elderly people can do it about once a week. The key is that there must be a restrictive principle and it must never exceed the regulations, otherwise the spouse must refuse. In addition, it is absolutely forbidden to have sex multiple times a day or for several consecutive days, and it is even more inappropriate to have extramarital sex.