What is considered sexual pleasure for men in "Men and Women"

I am over 30, married and have children. I am in a period of strong sexual desire. Although I feel that my sex life is normal, I feel that ejaculation is very ordinary and I don't feel any pleasure. Is there something wrong with me?

Expert Answer:

Sexual pleasure is just a psychological feeling, and the definition or degree of pleasure cannot be defined by various "hard indicators". But you can also experience its presence in several ways:

A cathartic relief. After receiving sexual stimulation, a man may experience an excitement impulse, his penis becomes erect, and he may have a spontaneous desire for intercourse. After intercourse, sexual activity culminates in ejaculation, which calms the impulse, relaxes the mood, and gives one a sense of calm and satisfaction after release.

A blend of emotions. Husband and wife love each other, cuddle up to each other tenderly, caress each other, arouse sexual impulses and have intercourse. After the climax, they feel each other's warmth and thoughtfulness even more. The intercourse of sexual organs creates an inexplicable mutual and indispensable need. This emotional fusion that arises from physical fusion makes both parties feel a kind of happiness from the heart.

A kind of happiness in fatigue. From the mutual sexual excitement and impulse, the physical activity during intercourse, to the final ejaculation, both parties have a somewhat tired and "soft" feeling afterwards. In this "soft" embrace, a silent communication occurs, allowing both parties to feel the comfort and happiness given to them by the other, a happiness that no other thing can give.

And so on, it can be summarized as: sexual pleasure is not simply felt by the sexual organs of both parties, but more importantly, the meaning of this pleasure must be felt from the emotional, psychological and behavioral aspects. For this reason, harmonious sex life is considered to be the bond of family happiness and the catalyst of marital affection. Otherwise, rough behavior simply for sexual release will hardly bring any pleasure.