What do men want women to do most when they are intimate?

Have you ever felt upset because a man made a mistake and refused to admit it? Have you ever thought about breaking up because of his unreasonable behavior? In fact, many couples have said in their love life that blindly accommodating others will only make themselves very tired. So, how to win a woman's heart? Today, the editor will reveal the secrets to you from a psychological analysis!

Men's psychology: Why men don't like to admit their mistakes

1. Men feel blamed when women ask questions

For example, when a woman asks a man "Where did you go today?", it is actually just a casual question, but the man will think it is a question, even if it is very weak, but he will feel "Are you blaming me?"

If the man then answers, "I went out for a drink and a social event," the woman will most likely reply, "I've had a lot of social events recently," and the man's train of thought will be, "Ah, you're blaming me after all." The same question may have different answers, but men are the kind of creatures who think of other people's questions as doubts and are very bad at dealing with them. There is nothing that can be done about it.

2. Men always want to prove that they are "very honest"

Men have their own way of thinking, and their brain circuits make them always want to prove that they are "very upright". This kind of self-righteous thinking determines the way they deal with things. For example, when something falls, the first thing they will think of is "Who put it here!", excluding themselves as the "culprit", and then get angry at the thing. This is a very common scene. This is what is called self-righteousness, always wanting to emphasize that you are not a bad person, and thus determining your next actions.

For the same reason, men are less likely to admit their mistakes when they are arguing. Even if you know deep down that you are wrong, you don’t want to apologize because that would destroy the image of integrity you have created.

3. Giving men a way out is a smart way to have an argument

If women understand men's little thoughts, they should treat the situation differently when faced with such situations, that is, leave room for maneuver and resolve the issue through negotiation. Using the previous example, what women should do is not to say “I have a lot of social engagements recently”, but to give a vague answer of “Oh”.

Of course, if you want to have a good exchange of ideas and come up with a perfect solution, such a dialogue will not work, but if you just show off your power and say some irrelevant things, it will only lead to arguments in the end. Therefore, giving men a way out is the wise way to avoid meaningless quarrels.

What to do after an argument

Although sometimes women can cleverly avoid quarrels with their boyfriends, quarrels are always inevitable when two people are together, so dealing with quarrels becomes a compulsory course in life. What is the wise thing for a woman to do after an argument with her boyfriend?

1. Postpone the conversation to calm both parties down

If a man is upset and wants to get it off his chest, a woman will often assume that he will calm down after he finishes talking. In fact, this only happens when she appreciates what he says. Remember, when men complain, they are often self-righteous. If she is not prepared to appreciate what he has to say, or at least his point of view, then it is very important for her to postpone the conversation.

Most women don't consider the issue of a man expressing his feelings because they wouldn't let him talk if he could. It is rude for a woman to put off another woman's request to talk. It is also rude for a man to be able to listen but to put off a woman's request to talk. However, if the person is angry and she cannot agree with or at least appreciate his point of view, then it is very important for her to postpone his conversation.

For her, the method of postponement is also very important. She shouldn't blame him because that would only add fuel to his anger. She should confirm his feelings with a few words, then ask for a delay in the conversation, and then, without saying anything else, just walk away as if her behavior was natural and all was well. This is a new relationship technique that allows him to save face and calm down.

2. Re-communicate and explain clearly

Women must remember that men are not like women. Men need time to calm down and think things through before they will feel better. And when he is upset and angry, asking him questions will only add fuel to the fire. After you calm down, you need to strive for the opportunity to communicate with him again, otherwise the relationship will continue to be deadlocked. In the process of re-communication, both parties can easily start quarreling again because of the grievances they suffered in the previous quarrel. Therefore, the way to avoid another quarrel is to temporarily abandon the idea of ​​arguing about right and wrong, and be objective, objective, and objective again!

3. Solve problems and avoid conflicts

When faced with a conflict, if you choose to avoid it instead of resolving it, you may be able to reconcile this time, but you will quarrel over the same issue again next time, which will easily lead to a breakdown in the relationship in the long run. Therefore, after reconciliation, you should learn how to solve problems with him to avoid the next quarrel. Before solving a problem, you must first make it clear that the problem is between two people, so both of you need to know what the problem is. So you can't keep it in your heart, you have to speak it out.