Rationally analyzing, whose feelings are more important during sex?

Men like to "hit the mark directly", women like to "gradually heat up"; men "fall asleep immediately" after sex, but women insist on having some "dessert"... How should sex be done to satisfy both parties at the same time?

1. Respect my own wishes, that is, how I am willing to communicate with the other party;

2. Get recognition from the other party;

3. Matching principle.

For example, if one party is willing to attack and the other party is willing to be attacked, or if one party is willing to abuse and the other party is willing to be abused, this is a match.

Nowadays, many women are beginning to have sexual autonomy and can change sexual positions - women can be on top and in control - and they don't necessarily just want you to be gentle. The specific situation depends on the sexual object and varies from person to person. What matters is that two people are willing to communicate and make each other happy.